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During Covid lockdown, Wolverhampton Council has recorded high level of abuse. Never before has women shelters been overwhelmed and suffering lack of resources and accommodations. It is not fair that many victims of abuse feel trapped not only having to live with their abusers, but, spiritually drained.
Domestic violence and abusive relationships, leaves spiritual and mental scars. But until you are caught up inside this dark twisting web, it is hard to know what is happening, or how you got there in the first place! But what defines domestic abuse?
It’s when there is violent, abusive or bullying behaviour or actions towards a partner or former partner to scare and control them. It can happen at home or outside the home. It causes fear and harm to the body, mind and spirit. Most abusers who carry out these actions do so in order to:
- Break you down psychologically
- Total Control over you
- Do so because of sexual inadequacy
- Compensating lack of masculinity and much more…
Domestic violence is a criminal act and should be reported to a trusted authority. And as stated, verbal abuse is now deemed under the same category. I have worked with women who have had their confidence smashed and felt ugly because of coming out of relationships where they were constantly ridiculed. All this comes under, the need to control. In order for a man to control you he first must ‘love,’ you but after the abuse always follows.
MT Huss, J Langhinrichsen-Rohling – Law and Human Behavior, 2006
Scholarly research has shown that most domestic violence abusers many of them are psychopaths. They have no emotions and will never admit to the harm they are causing you or the long term emotional effects. They will move on from one victim to another… They are so clever at what they do that at first, they romance you with flowers, before the abuse follows.
Many women suffering from the side effects of domestic violence whether physical, emotional, or verbal, carries that deep scar. And it does change you. The light you once had and that laughter suddenly seems to just disappear. You no longer dress the way you used too because he would control your wardrobe. While he survived, inwardly you died!
In order to understand healing from domestic violence or toxic relationship; we need to explore how you got into that web. It can be painful going through that door and reopening it. But going through it and understanding the process you will never put yourself in that position again!
Most domestic violence abuse is about power. It is about men wanting to control women, and we see these truths even in patriarchal controlled religion. Women are seen as lesser creation, bringing sin into the world or sexualised for male gratification, and for his friends to leer over. It is a male world and women are just convenient to have his babies or become a social trophy.
How Psychopaths Shift the Blame onto you
Most women after being emotionally or physically abused feels defiled, helpless and confused. She feels like she has failed in life. She is always blaming herself! Stop it! You are not to blame! He will blame you because:
- You didn’t make his tea right
- You wore a skirt too short
- ]You answered him back
- You didn’t kept the house the way he liked it
- You put on weight
With your confidence and personality already under attack, he sucks you deeper into his web. The predator will remind you that you were asking for it. This is to serve as further brainwashing so that you do not see his actions as criminal. So therefore there is no police involvement. This might explain why the majority women do not report domestic violence and abuse.
Reiki healing whether we do it Zoom Skype Online, or face to face, it about untangling the web of deceit and deep pain that is preventing you from breathing. You will feel a deep sense of peace and relaxation, and letting go… but please note, that as you dig up any plant, you will see the bare root at the bottom!
Sometimes things that we want to keep hidden will show themselves and it will be raw. Psychopaths who leave you in this state do so because they want to control your life and it does not matter whether the relationship is over. It is about domination and it is about hate.
What to Expect During Reiki Healing
- Hand on healing
- Nice warm tingling sensation in the body
- Emotional jubilation or release
- Tearful therapy
- Spiritual Detoxing and more…
After the reiki therapy some people find it dramatic. It is life changing because you are dealing with real pain and deep issues that has been buried. Once your mind and body breathes through this doorway you will get through the other side and be the person you were meant to be.
Prices: £35 One Hour. Send an Email or Text to: 07507486532 or apositivelifestyle@yahoo.com
